Dashing hopes of casual laborers in Kenya

Job is a casual laborer in school. He survives by slashing the school compound. He isn’t a member of a Union, he doesn’t have a KRA pin and lives on the mercy of the employer. He gets paid ksh.10000 a month. He has a student in form one and two other children in private primary school. He pays his rent for Ksh4000 and her wife’s who stays with the children in another town Ksh2500. Job has to feed both himself and his family. An average family spends shs.100 on breakfast and 150 for lunch and dinner on the lower end. Per month that totals to kshs 7500.
‘‘How do you survive on that”I asked.
“Well, that money isn’t enough and i just dont know how i survive” Job relied.
Job breaks it down for me. He says out of the 10000; 6500 goes to rent and 3000 goes to school fees.
“How do even eat now and what about the children, don’t they need food and even uniforms.” I asked.
Job explains to me how he walks to coworkers and students around school to get money for food.
‘‘Ile, mbao naeza kuomba collo, nachukua ten nibuy sukuma and 5 nyanya na 5 kitungu, Then siku nimebarikwa na 100 ivi, naipeleka kwa unga’’ Job explains.
Job’s story is part of a larger Kenyan story shared by millions of people. Think of all the casual laborers from security guards to cleaners to househelps.

Think of the difference you could make by just giving as little as 20 Bob. That 20 Bob is enough to feed someone or even take a child to school.


What you’re missing in the tribal Narrative.

Hello, During these cold seasons, I can’t think more of what kenya asks of us than to step up and protect it. I believe for us to know where we are going as a country, we must first understand where we have come from. Our grandparents did a very good job in getting us independence, their children, our fathers have done a very good job in diving us ;making us hate one another. Our generation must do something in writing a new chapter of Kenyans history. Many of our age mates(South Korea, Singapore, India, Egypt, South Africa, Dubai) that got independence the same time we did have gone a milestone. We too can do it. We must defend our values, the same values our grandparents had:Harambee.. We must make kenyan voice be heard, we must make our voice be heard.
Let’s face it, what happened in 2007, what happened in 2013 and what happened in 2016. In 2007 about 1300 people died out of ethnic violence. The same happened in 2013 and 2016. And the same trend seems to happen everytime. After people are dead, they always go back and unite together making fools of us. They call it a bold step to unite the country, but I don’t, Why would politicians agree to unite when most of their citizens are dead. Why didn’t they do it before any lives were lost.I believe they do this out of self interest ;either party always makes an offer that the looser finds attractive. Why do you think the country is more tribal? I believe it’s because of our politicians, our two politicians. I believe kenyans are good people, I believe you are a reasonable person and you understand very well how much you love your neighbor, but when we come to talks about these two Leaders, our tribal thinking most of the times take way. I thought it was going to be over this election ; but now again they’re telling us who to elect in 2022, those who’ll continue serving their interest. We both know someone has to stop this, we both know we are suppose to stop this from happening. Our democracy, our constitution gives us freedom, to make free choices without influence from our Leaders. Our Democracy matters because it reflects an idea of equality and liberty in us, it gives us our dignity ;it gives every individual an equal vote and an equal say in formation of our government.
Start pushing for accountability from Your MCA, Your MP, Your Governor and even Your president. Tweet him, write him a letter, Tell him what he can do to solve your situation or problem. He won’t reply most of the time, but if you keep tweeting, if you keep asking and if You keep writing, he’ll eventually reply. Remember the phone numbers they gave you on campaigns, are they working? Mine isn’t working.
If you’re feeling the same energy that I do. If you believe that we need jobs, if you believe we need better hospitals and schools,if you believe in equal treatment for our girls and boys,if you still have hopes for our children, our brothers and sisters who have to brave the cold and the floods to go to schools with a believe that kenya has a place for them too. If you agree with me that enough is enough and you’re sharing with me a believe that we can make our lives great, by making kenya great;give me a missed call on +254790397950(0790397950) or send me a text or even WhatsApp. Together let’s build a better tale to tell our children and grand children.

Does porn up men’s game?

Internet influence is an act that both males and females undergoes through. A few weeks ago, a classmate of mine came to me asking why guys like watching porn. I didn’t think about it that much at that particular pointing in time until yesterday. I deeply thought about it and how it influences guys perception on females.
I took it upon myself to WhatsApp random guys contact in my contact list and you won’t believe this but it’s true, that most guys watch porn to up their sex game. For a long time I took this as a non issue in our society until last week, when I bumped into a porn clip from one of my classmate’s laptop.
I asked him out just to get his view on this.

You know what Collins, every guy atleast once must watch these clips to learn. It makes you better in bed. Imagine making your girl behave like the pornstar girl-all that moaning, screaming.

“Really? Has it affected how you perceive girls? “I asked.
“Well, I have to confess this, I don’t pretty much give women that much value, I believe in a one night stand thing. Get her super, watch a movie and have your ticket between her legs. And most of the time, all I see is that well rounded ass, and how am longing to grab it. I know it’s a bad thing, but really it’s also fun and entertaining. ” He elaborated.
Then I went to a few girls to get their opinions on this.
“It’s embarrassing really how guys view us in this modern era, we girls also want to be a part of society, we don’t dress as an invitation but to embrace our true identity. And shame on those guys who view us as sexual toys.” Grace, Bcom student.
“Do you girls also watch porn? ” I asked.

Out of curiosity, its a normal thing for every human, but just once or twice for girls unlike guys who get addicted to it.she replied.

“How does porn addiction from guys influence how they view you.. And first have you ever been a victim from them”

“Yes, I have been, I remember one day walking across school and this guy friend of mine slaps(spanks) me from behind. I felt helpless. I didn’t wanna react because of the embarrassment that would cause me and I have so many friends who feel uncomfortable on how guys perceive them. I think porn makes them demean women and the fact that addiction plays so much in their mind, most of time they lose focus of serious activities in their daily lives.”

It’s a proven fact that frequent Exposure to dirty clips ruins your mind on how you view people from the opposite sex. Most of the time sex will be the only thing running In your mind. Have witnessed this first hand, its a path you don’t want to tread on for the sake of yourself, our girls and our entire society. Internet indeed is a good thing, but let’s stop consuming its vices. Let’s make it a tool to develop ourselves for the best. It’s a hard thing to turn our back against, that’s why we are asking for help from our female colleagues, because together we can achieve equity.

5 productive female habits that guys should learn 🎓

Ever wondered why most females lead lives beyond their means? Well, most of you will attach that to the existence of sponsors (older money donors for the selfish motive of misusing girls) but well that’s just like 20% of the girls. What about the other 80%? Well;here are the secrets the other 80% of the girls do that I recommend every guy should practice.
1.Read Books.
Most ladies spend a huge junk of time reading self help books and romantic novels. For a long time I thought it was unproductive until I started small talks along these two genres of book and believe me these books play a very vital role in most girls lives. For guys I’d recommend classics and a bit of self help books. Start with one book monthly, it helps.
2.Personal care.
Well, most of them overdo it, but its a good thing that I think we guys should adopt. Daily showering is a must for every guy. Healthy eating is also a must in our daily to do list. Being clean doesn’t mean you are girly, it means you value your life so much. Why would you spend kshs. 1000 on a dinner with a girl while not spend the same amount on dinner for yourself. Ask any girl, they’ll never do such a damn thing unless they’re crazily in love with you.
3.Self worth.
Girls really value themselves so highly. Did you know a girl may have a crush on you and will never ever open up? Did you know that a girl could be poor and will never allow that get past her hostel or apartment door? These are good things, they reveal how psychology stable a person is. They foster an understanding that no matter how bad a situation is, my value is way higher than the Situation itself. As guys, let’s embrace the same mentality without forgetting our masculine role.
4.Art of faking.
I’ll be honest, ladies can fake anything up. They know how to use their feminine appeal to get anything they want. They use it in manipulation and even deception. They have mastered how to fake external love. They employ this in confusing guys into doing basically anything they want. Is it bad? Yes, but who cares. Why don’t you as a guy employ the same.
5.Healthy relationship.
Have never met people who are really good in creating friendships like ladies. Their friendship bond is so strong to an extent they share the darkest of secrets with each other. This makes them vulnerable as they’re very easy to understand if you can be an assert to their best friend. It’s also good on their down moments because atleast they have a shoulder to lean on. They are very good in peer mentoring. For guys, it’s very rare but it’s an opportunity for us too to start working on our friends. We have allies as I call them but not genuine friends. We don’t peer mentor unless it’s at church when we are forced into small mentorship groups.

Why are you living fake?

People would rather live a fake life than proudly embrace the true life within them-Unknown.

I look at youths and how crazy they are going just to live the life a celebrity or a friend is living. We forget that each and everyone of us was wonderfully and uniquely created. Each one of us was born with a gift and each one of us should embrace those difference for the world to prosper.

I was born a queit and a jovial person depending on the occasion. I was born with a passion for English and a reader too. You were born to be something else. Just imagine an introvert trying to lead an extroverted kind of lifestyle,wouldn’t that person look a little weird?

Why do we lie to our friends about the kind of people we are. What do we get from being fake? We lie from the things we posses, where we hangout, the kind of meals we take to even the kind of clothes we put on. Many of us are leading other people’s life. Will I ever be complete if I start leading the life of my favourite actor or celebrity? Of course no.

We crave for likes and followers on instagram, Facebook and even on Twitter. Be online on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays from 10pm 🕙 and you’ll understand how far youths are willing to go to get followers. We’re forced to retweet, like and comment not because we are willing but because we know by the end of the day I shall have reached 2k followers. These forms the foundation of our talks and discussions be it at work or school the following day. We are longing to brag to our friends about how powerful we are becoming. Well… Take a step back. Is that really being powerful? How is that going to make you lead the life of your dream. Imagine if the same energy was to be channelled towards our goals in life, our real desires or the things that are truly important to us. Which kind of world would we create.

Still on instagram and the things that inspire us. Which kind of pictures do we post? Definitely everyone posts their best but imagine getting a negative comment on the very picture you so highly esteem. Won’t you feel like the whole world is abruptly cracking? If you really believed your picture was good then why do you allow a negative comment get into you.

Fakeness will never make our life any better than it is. A man can only reach his or her full potential if he embraces his true self. Faking where you stay, where you studied, the stuff you own, the feelings deep inside your heart or even your thinking isn’t going to make us better. The first step to full realisation is to live our real life, that kind of life you live in the comfy of your bed. And if you’re getting confused about who you really are, then look at yourself and the thoughts you lead when alone. What makes me really me? -a kung-fu panda movie quote. That’s the question you ought to ask yourself and live that answer out loud. Shine! But remember not to settle for mediocrity or a life way below your potential.

A perfect mono date

So intrigued!Super excited! Woo.…This place is fancy! It’s KFC kimathi street.
“Can i help you, sir?”Gorgeous waitress distract my sweet monologue
With a smile,‘yes miss,kindly bring a six piecer, two glasses of cocktail and as usual some dessert’
She rushes to the ground floor and in a matter of seconds the meal is delivered in a tray.
“Just curious,when is she arriving?” she inquires.
“well..why so madam” I replied
“we have special give aways for couples”she answered.
“Well…I appreciate the gesture but am here on a totally different mission” I replied.
“Enjoy your time sir” She said while leaving my table to attend to the next customer.

First things first, free isn’t always free. That’s what I have learnt of late. By all means flee from anything that brands itself free. Still curious about the title. Well ..this is a single date ..I mean a date between me and I. I have lived my whole life taking ladies for dates; asking them questions that I have never taken time to ask myself.
Okay, I enters the building smiling and takes the opposite seat to me.
‘Hope I haven’t kept you waiting’ I said.
‘‘Not really…we arrived here all at the same time only that you were still kept busy by the beautiful waitress ’’ me replied.
“okay,well..am glad you did made it anyway”me continue.
“I like the selection though. It matches my taste.”I interjected.

Me was funny all the time,I kept laughing and the trend went on for an hour. A deep silence fell in between us,the kind I only experienced the last time I was in the cinema.
‘‘what?” I asked.
Me kept silent.
I,reminded,me,that there was no kissing scene being acted and it was just a date.
But that didn’t stop me.Me persistent with his silence. Then me starts looking at me in the eye and asks with a sorrow that I relate with my first ever break up “What type of person are you?”
I didn’t see that coming but now I have to answer

“Well..am a dreamer and a reader. I spend a junk of time reading books. Am one person who believes that no matter how bad the world is trying to make you unworthy,believe and with confidence tell it that its my opportunity to shine…..Moreover,I love God because He does wonders in my life.I like honesty and I believe that trust is the thin line that distinguishes friendship and intimacy.”

Me kept following with a nod, ‘That said,where do i fall?’
‘‘ I will be honest, for a long time you’ve been my friend but today you’ve earned your place in the intimacy zone by asking me that question.I have always lied and pretended everytime not only about my identify but also about my ambitions. ’’
“Thank you very much for being frank with me and me(I) as well promises the same.”
We took a break from the serious and spent a few moments cracking jokes at one another. Laughter flooded my whole body and the level of excitement was skyrocketing in my nerves.
Me continued, “What do you want out of your life?”
‘‘ whats up with all this questions me…why dont we just have fun.’’ I replied
“ it’s very necessary for our future relationship. Be Frank with me as much as possible ” Me emphasised.
“mmmh…There are so many things i want out of life” I replied.
“ A little more specific,mate”Me elaborated

“ I want to be successful…I want to pioneer and be the change I need around me.I want to live a happy fulfilling life full of excitement. I want a happy, God fearing family with two children:A girl and a boy. I want to be thankful everyday and above all to be my biggest,mostest powerful self.”

‘‘ Well done! Let’s never forget that we have a life we need to live every click of the clock.’’
‘‘ Before we proceed to the next activity I have one and last question ’’
“Go on..we have all the time in the world.” I responded with a big smile. I was enjoying this kind of question not matter how scary they may sound.
“Well..Thank you so much for your genuine interest.What do you consider very important to you ..atleast 3.”

‘‘ A lot actually …Definitely my God comes first, then my life (from how happy I feel to how i handle my worst of moments)and family then to conclude the list my career.’’ I replied;though I could write an essay in answer to that question.

“Bingo!Good job in reward lets go shopping at the mall to mark this date”
Perfect ideas.I left the building full of smile and happiness.

Play an active role in this beautiful world full of happiness and opportunities. Start by going on a mono date. It doesn’t have to be in a fancy restaurant; it could be under a tree or even in the comfy of your bed. Shine!!

Thanks for reading.

What would life be without Mum?

Many times I get lost in deep sweet memories and it’s in one of these moment that I got stroke really hard by this question. I began a moment of reflection dating back in my lower primary years till now that am remaining with only a semester to clear campus:A feeling that’s sweet and scary at the same time.

If mum never existed then definitely I could not be around but that isn’t the question of contemplation. Am bringing to light the role mum plays in my life. She’s the reason why am the person I am today and I pray to God that I never get guts to talk at her or disobey her.

While in lower primary, mum used to cane me very much at literally any kind of misbehavior from playing football after normal school hours to keeping bad company. I hated her with a passion then, it’s only today that am getting hit by deep reality that she was actually helping me. This is after I took a short examination of the kind of life those friends are leading and I feel sorry for them. I’d just fall in tears if mum didn’t do that. Had she kept me in my comfort zones;then that’s the pathetic hopeless life I’d be leading.

I remember then mum forgoing lunch just for me to get tuition and exams fees and the sad part was this Christmas when Dad was extremely sick. That Christmas we took porridge and dad was brought for food by a church member whose nephew happen to be in the same university as I am. Mum has struggled with me all the way.

She’s not only prayerful but industrious and indeed she made me a believer because her God works. I went to Cardinal otunga and we were paying 60k for school fees. Well…until today I don’t understand how I managed my studies for 4 years without being sent home even for a single day. She’s in cereal business,the name sounds fancy, but those who have spent time in the village understand how this business is. She didn’t have much education as I have but she’s smarter than me. Am unable to figure out how even to get cash for my lunch something that’s pretty easy for her.

Now am in campus and am always moved by the suffering mum undergoes for me to be in school. I’d sometimes make weekly calls to know how she’s doing. I can only imagine the stress she undergoes at the sight of my call;with questions like how much is in need this time? Is he okay?Does he have enough to keep him in school? Probably going on in her mind. We are 4 siblings all placing their hopes in that one mum who never gives up, who will always find time to pray for us even if we can’t find time ourselves.

There are so many mums out there like my mother and we are the cause of their “deaths” Imagine what you would do after undergoing all that agony only to realize that your child spent all the school fees you’ve been sending on women, drugs or even sportpesa. It hurst. And if you have a mum like my mum try as much as you can to give her hopes,show as much love as you can. Don’t start despising her or even looking down upon her. Understand she’s your mother;she always mean well for you. Never ever allow her cry because of the pain you bring. Though sometimes they’ll be wrong just act like you’re in agreement.

We are heroes of our own mothers. We can only make them proud by leading perfect lives. Even if your mum isn’t with you, just make her happy by being successful, she’ll be smiling somewhere and between we never get seperated from our mothers. They forever occupy special spaces in our hearts. Live your life productively with God at the centre.