Why are you living fake?

People would rather live a fake life than proudly embrace the true life within them-Unknown.

I look at youths and how crazy they are going just to live the life a celebrity or a friend is living. We forget that each and everyone of us was wonderfully and uniquely created. Each one of us was born with a gift and each one of us should embrace those difference for the world to prosper.

I was born a queit and a jovial person depending on the occasion. I was born with a passion for English and a reader too. You were born to be something else. Just imagine an introvert trying to lead an extroverted kind of lifestyle,wouldn’t that person look a little weird?

Why do we lie to our friends about the kind of people we are. What do we get from being fake? We lie from the things we posses, where we hangout, the kind of meals we take to even the kind of clothes we put on. Many of us are leading other people’s life. Will I ever be complete if I start leading the life of my favourite actor or celebrity? Of course no.

We crave for likes and followers on instagram, Facebook and even on Twitter. Be online on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays from 10pm 🕙 and you’ll understand how far youths are willing to go to get followers. We’re forced to retweet, like and comment not because we are willing but because we know by the end of the day I shall have reached 2k followers. These forms the foundation of our talks and discussions be it at work or school the following day. We are longing to brag to our friends about how powerful we are becoming. Well… Take a step back. Is that really being powerful? How is that going to make you lead the life of your dream. Imagine if the same energy was to be channelled towards our goals in life, our real desires or the things that are truly important to us. Which kind of world would we create.

Still on instagram and the things that inspire us. Which kind of pictures do we post? Definitely everyone posts their best but imagine getting a negative comment on the very picture you so highly esteem. Won’t you feel like the whole world is abruptly cracking? If you really believed your picture was good then why do you allow a negative comment get into you.

Fakeness will never make our life any better than it is. A man can only reach his or her full potential if he embraces his true self. Faking where you stay, where you studied, the stuff you own, the feelings deep inside your heart or even your thinking isn’t going to make us better. The first step to full realisation is to live our real life, that kind of life you live in the comfy of your bed. And if you’re getting confused about who you really are, then look at yourself and the thoughts you lead when alone. What makes me really me? -a kung-fu panda movie quote. That’s the question you ought to ask yourself and live that answer out loud. Shine! But remember not to settle for mediocrity or a life way below your potential.

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A perfect mono date

So intrigued!Super excited! Woo.…This place is fancy! It’s KFC kimathi street.
“Can i help you, sir?”Gorgeous waitress distract my sweet monologue
With a smile,‘yes miss,kindly bring a six piecer, two glasses of cocktail and as usual some dessert’
She rushes to the ground floor and in a matter of seconds the meal is delivered in a tray.
“Just curious,when is she arriving?” she inquires.
“well..why so madam” I replied
“we have special give aways for couples”she answered.
“Well…I appreciate the gesture but am here on a totally different mission” I replied.
“Enjoy your time sir” She said while leaving my table to attend to the next customer.

First things first, free isn’t always free. That’s what I have learnt of late. By all means flee from anything that brands itself free. Still curious about the title. Well ..this is a single date ..I mean a date between me and I. I have lived my whole life taking ladies for dates; asking them questions that I have never taken time to ask myself.
Okay, I enters the building smiling and takes the opposite seat to me.
‘Hope I haven’t kept you waiting’ I said.
‘‘Not really…we arrived here all at the same time only that you were still kept busy by the beautiful waitress ’’ me replied.
“okay,well..am glad you did made it anyway”me continue.
“I like the selection though. It matches my taste.”I interjected.

Me was funny all the time,I kept laughing and the trend went on for an hour. A deep silence fell in between us,the kind I only experienced the last time I was in the cinema.
‘‘what?” I asked.
Me kept silent.
I,reminded,me,that there was no kissing scene being acted and it was just a date.
But that didn’t stop me.Me persistent with his silence. Then me starts looking at me in the eye and asks with a sorrow that I relate with my first ever break up “What type of person are you?”
I didn’t see that coming but now I have to answer

“Well..am a dreamer and a reader. I spend a junk of time reading books. Am one person who believes that no matter how bad the world is trying to make you unworthy,believe and with confidence tell it that its my opportunity to shine…..Moreover,I love God because He does wonders in my life.I like honesty and I believe that trust is the thin line that distinguishes friendship and intimacy.”

Me kept following with a nod, ‘That said,where do i fall?’
‘‘ I will be honest, for a long time you’ve been my friend but today you’ve earned your place in the intimacy zone by asking me that question.I have always lied and pretended everytime not only about my identify but also about my ambitions. ’’
“Thank you very much for being frank with me and me(I) as well promises the same.”
We took a break from the serious and spent a few moments cracking jokes at one another. Laughter flooded my whole body and the level of excitement was skyrocketing in my nerves.
Me continued, “What do you want out of your life?”
‘‘ whats up with all this questions me…why dont we just have fun.’’ I replied
“ it’s very necessary for our future relationship. Be Frank with me as much as possible ” Me emphasised.
“mmmh…There are so many things i want out of life” I replied.
“ A little more specific,mate”Me elaborated

“ I want to be successful…I want to pioneer and be the change I need around me.I want to live a happy fulfilling life full of excitement. I want a happy, God fearing family with two children:A girl and a boy. I want to be thankful everyday and above all to be my biggest,mostest powerful self.”

‘‘ Well done! Let’s never forget that we have a life we need to live every click of the clock.’’
‘‘ Before we proceed to the next activity I have one and last question ’’
“Go on..we have all the time in the world.” I responded with a big smile. I was enjoying this kind of question not matter how scary they may sound.
“Well..Thank you so much for your genuine interest.What do you consider very important to you ..atleast 3.”

‘‘ A lot actually …Definitely my God comes first, then my life (from how happy I feel to how i handle my worst of moments)and family then to conclude the list my career.’’ I replied;though I could write an essay in answer to that question.

“Bingo!Good job in reward lets go shopping at the mall to mark this date”
Perfect ideas.I left the building full of smile and happiness.

Play an active role in this beautiful world full of happiness and opportunities. Start by going on a mono date. It doesn’t have to be in a fancy restaurant; it could be under a tree or even in the comfy of your bed. Shine!!

Thanks for reading.

What would life be without Mum?

Many times I get lost in deep sweet memories and it’s in one of these moment that I got stroke really hard by this question. I began a moment of reflection dating back in my lower primary years till now that am remaining with only a semester to clear campus:A feeling that’s sweet and scary at the same time.

If mum never existed then definitely I could not be around but that isn’t the question of contemplation. Am bringing to light the role mum plays in my life. She’s the reason why am the person I am today and I pray to God that I never get guts to talk at her or disobey her.

While in lower primary, mum used to cane me very much at literally any kind of misbehavior from playing football after normal school hours to keeping bad company. I hated her with a passion then, it’s only today that am getting hit by deep reality that she was actually helping me. This is after I took a short examination of the kind of life those friends are leading and I feel sorry for them. I’d just fall in tears if mum didn’t do that. Had she kept me in my comfort zones;then that’s the pathetic hopeless life I’d be leading.

I remember then mum forgoing lunch just for me to get tuition and exams fees and the sad part was this Christmas when Dad was extremely sick. That Christmas we took porridge and dad was brought for food by a church member whose nephew happen to be in the same university as I am. Mum has struggled with me all the way.

She’s not only prayerful but industrious and indeed she made me a believer because her God works. I went to Cardinal otunga and we were paying 60k for school fees. Well…until today I don’t understand how I managed my studies for 4 years without being sent home even for a single day. She’s in cereal business,the name sounds fancy, but those who have spent time in the village understand how this business is. She didn’t have much education as I have but she’s smarter than me. Am unable to figure out how even to get cash for my lunch something that’s pretty easy for her.

Now am in campus and am always moved by the suffering mum undergoes for me to be in school. I’d sometimes make weekly calls to know how she’s doing. I can only imagine the stress she undergoes at the sight of my call;with questions like how much is in need this time? Is he okay?Does he have enough to keep him in school? Probably going on in her mind. We are 4 siblings all placing their hopes in that one mum who never gives up, who will always find time to pray for us even if we can’t find time ourselves.

There are so many mums out there like my mother and we are the cause of their “deaths” Imagine what you would do after undergoing all that agony only to realize that your child spent all the school fees you’ve been sending on women, drugs or even sportpesa. It hurst. And if you have a mum like my mum try as much as you can to give her hopes,show as much love as you can. Don’t start despising her or even looking down upon her. Understand she’s your mother;she always mean well for you. Never ever allow her cry because of the pain you bring. Though sometimes they’ll be wrong just act like you’re in agreement.

We are heroes of our own mothers. We can only make them proud by leading perfect lives. Even if your mum isn’t with you, just make her happy by being successful, she’ll be smiling somewhere and between we never get seperated from our mothers. They forever occupy special spaces in our hearts. Live your life productively with God at the centre.

Why young people should be interested in politics

Well, I have grown up hating politics. Not only the assassination part but also the unfairness that comes with winning. I was raised up believing that politics is a dirty game and when I took a vague look at our politicians -their life wasn’t that glamorous. Majority looked older and unfit and I was just curious where they spend all the money they squander.
It has been 15 years now and am learning a lot in the field of politics. I had a thin perspective of politics then. I took politics as election campaigns done by our politicians.

As Barack Obama puts it, ‘young people should be equally interested in politics just as old foxes’

His words led me to find out more and I realized that we as young people in 3 to 10 years we will be those politicians we don’t like. You’ll be running for president or even gubernatorial seat of your county. If we need a better nation we ought to develop genuine interest in political arena.

Lemme use my family as an example. Am the eldest child. All my youngsters are very keen on how I interact with mum and dad. They are keen on my friends and even on my social media post. But do I have to live a fake life just because they are watching? No.I try my best to be the best me-have the best characters and behaviors.

Just like being a first born a single child, politics involved so much than just an outstanding reputation, it goes way further to our inner character. It affects our education, our relationship with other communities, our happiness,our businesses…the list is endless. We are past election periods and look at the impact that has done: people dying, lectures and teachers striking, doctors striking, our soldiers getting butchered. All these ought not to have happen if we had responsible politicians who fall in the category of leadership. You won’t be living hating your neighbor and you’d be getting an education that enables you get employed after you’re done.

If we young people are to start a revolution, we have to master the art of good leadership that translates to a serene political environment. We have to understand that politics is a part of our life just as our girlfriends and families. We have to care of what is becoming of our future. We have to understand that if we fail to Polish ourselves for these positions then we’ll be experiencing even a worse political environment.

We apply politics in every corner of our life: in our families, on how we choose friends and even those we decide to interact with on our daily undertakings.How do we get to be passionate? Well..simple…we just have to follow and actively participate. Your opinion or view count.

Am a media student and I understand there’s much politics going on in our media organisation in terms of which story gets to be first on prime time news or even make headline on daily newspapers. It’s not in media alone but also where you work or stay or even relax.

I’d urge you to take an important step in reexaminining the values you hold dear whether they contribute towards building character or reputation. Only good character can make us have a good political environment.

We Both Have Feminine and Masculine Energy.

I was raised up with a believe that man should always be tough. A man was not suppose to show any kind of weakness. A man was suppose to enjoy the pain. In my teenage years, the role shifted from my community to the media. The media taught me a lot of the expectation of both male and female more or less the same as those I learnt in my early childhood years. Am now 21 and I wonder what is wrong with this world.

I have friends who find it difficult to express their feelings to ladies. Out of the 10 girls I studied with in primary school only one have been able to trace and is in the same level of studies as I am though a year behind;all the rest are either pregnant or married. Is the fault theirs? No. It is their upbringing. They got raised up with a particular set of believes most of which you have to really work to overcome.

The facts still stand in campus. We have few ladies who prefer technical courses. Ladies are not willing to handle the technical stuff. Like in my faculty, most want to be anchors(Television presenters ). Even in our job market, from America the most powerful nation to Kenya,seldom will you find brave women to contest political offices. There are countable female directors in the whole world and less than 7 female presidents out of over 190 countries. We’ve never had a female president in our 7 key universities.

It’s not only girls but guys also have their own struggle. Did you know many guys die out of stress because they don’t have anyone to open upto. Unlike ladies who easily open up to one another, guys will rarely do that. Guys we raised up believing that they’re tough. It isn’t true. There is no weakness in being able to express yourself.

Ever asked yourself why the question of true love existence has been a question of contemplation for over a half a century now? Yes, simple. Because a lot of people are not able to face true love, it’s scary. It requires a massive amount of energy. That’s why people settle in arrangements and a lot of hit and run instances in campus. There’s a famous quote nowadays trending that “looking for a virgin in campus is like looking for a piece of needle in a hay sac” its not entirely possible but it requires the patience of an angel.

Is this something we can’t change? No. Both male and female have to get an understanding that we both have masculine and feminine energy within us. What does that mean? It means don’t be scared of what the other gender can do. If a male can be a president, then a female can equally be one. If a lady can own an iconic beauty parlor then a guy can as well own the same.

Achieving this is only possible if we men are taught to be emotional and empathetic. If we learn that not all the times we should control which will afford women an opportunity to try some of the things we do. Women won’t have to submit to us if we don’t have to control. Men will also be open to expressing themselves if women understand that it’s right for men to feel. I know it’s mandatory for women to submit in the bible. I surely am that God did not mean being a slave to satisfying male desires.

Are you willing to travel the road less travelled? Are you willing to move forward even if you feels alone?

As Emma Watson puts it,“There would have been no generation without men and women.” let’s work hand in hand toward empowering each other. Don’t wait for a union or an activist but take the lead among your family and friends.

Dating is a game of slavery

My friends and I late last year started dating. We started at basically the same time. The eldest of us was the last to date and the youngest was kind of the first to have a girlfriend. I have not only been keen of our trio friendship but also of how it has changed since we got girlfriends. Before we used to hangout out a lot, text alot and spend alot of time together. We could exchange advices on how to build a grand Mega reality. We talked of buying fancy cars and not to mention of trio wedding 8 years from now. How we will be renting neighborhood apartments and move to suburb at 45 to settle with our families and parents. Actually we had swore that the most a person could have was three kids.It felt fulfilling and good till a new reality unfolded.

Well I was the youngest and A was the eldest of us all but let me not forget M who kind of started dating because of the pressure from us.A to a reasonable extent have managed to balance her relationship life with our friendship life. Despite having a girlfriend he can once in a week give me a call just to remind me of the beautiful ideas we used to discuss before we started this wonderful world of dating and infact he insists of a physical meet now and again.
“Having a girlfriend is a blessing to me.” He asserts.”She not only brings out the part of me that I never realized before but also makes me feel more like the luckiest man on earth” A continues. And deep inside I say to myself that I’d kill to have a girl like that. Not at one point as she ever cheated on him and the most interesting part was that this girl was still a virgin at 20…yeah true story.I know that caught you with a lot of surprise but trust me there are still lots of beautiful girls out there both inside and out. They talk about their specific day of key events on their relationship like when they’ll get married, where they’ll spend their honeymoon and one of the craziest was the first time they’ll have sex.
What? Iasked A. “You mean all this time you haven’t like tried it out? ” and he’ll go like bro easy …that doesn’t make someone less of a man between it makes you an extra ordinary man. I’ll go like you’re right bro but deep within am battling my feeling on how damn this guy is until he adds something. ” Well..I know it’s a lot of stuff to take in but if only you understand how powerful this act is,then you’ll for sure be willing to make it ceremonious..for me..it’s on that day she’ll say I do.” Jeeez!!that perfectly sank in.
To my other friend, M,who cuts in between the two of us. He was very ambitious right from day one in campus till last semester,the conclusion of our third year. He nowadays objects every positive suggestion from us and he kind of has kept his distance. He’s the perfect defination of dating being a slavery. He forgot about his old friends. His life is always his girlfriend. Well, there’s is nothing bad in being with your girlfriend 100% of the time but it kind of makes you a slave to her. A real guy has to have other useful activities going on in his life. He should provide a sense of direction to the girl not the other way round. The moment you start forgetting about everything in your life and your make your life about your partner that’s the very moment the rain is beating you as my favourite lecture Mr.Maina puts it.
I don’t feel my friend, M, is the only one but many of us. Well unlike A I don’t know what goes on in M’s life since he started dating. He barely spend time with us even a simple text from him is like waiting for rain in Sahara desert. What he forgets is the desperation you can never hide when one looks at you straight in the eye. I have this feeling that M is working very hard to be a perfect guy but he’s totally lost truck. His pocket money Is always split into two.
His girlfriend is a master of playing needy. Why sacrifice your beautifully given life for the sake of a stranger who to be honest isn’t adding any value in your life.
A lady’s life should just go on just as your life even at the point of dating. She should keep her former friends and continue building new ones.
One of my girl friends recommended a very good book to me on the commencement of this week – the monk who sold his ferari. In the book they say true satisfaction isn’t in possessing all the world can provide materially but in having a happy fulfilling life.
Is your dating giving you a happy fulfilling life or are you dating because your friends are dating. There’s never a rush, the right girl/guy is out there waiting for you.
Just like traveling, dating should always be out of passion. It should be a fuel that drives you in your everyday activity.

Best Affordable Christmas gifts

Christmas is a season for giving and sharing love and nothing feels as good as getting the best gift for your loved ones. This could be your mum,dad,brother, sister,boyfriend or girlfriend. For lovers of travelling, I’d recommend an adventure to nowhere but for those who just want to have a nice time during holiday, these are the best gifts to give to kindle some sparks on your loved ones:

1.Something they genuinely desire.
There’s no magic,the only way out of it is to ask them what they desire most in their lives. It could be a Jewellery or a watch or a flower or just some wonderful time. This is definitely the best gift you’ll ever give.

2.Love
Yes,Love.People may act like they’ve got it all figured out but there’s nothing as heartbreaking as a person with everything without love. Everyone needs to be loved even those not worthy of it. Love is a better gift than even a gold watch. Surprise that special someone with pure love without anything on their end.

3.Mutual Admiration.
Closer to love but not similar. This is genuinely getting interested in what your loved one is doing and giving them full support. It could be cooking or playing or even their job or school work and showing them full support. Show them how much they inspire you through the activity they do.

4.Appreciation.
Ooh yeah,I know deep inside you’ll be saying -what change does it make? And to answer I’ll say-it changes everything. Well people feel special when they get appreciate for something they did or they are doing. Just a pass a note appreciating someone for something you honesty admire or like about them.

5.You.
This reminds me of the recent Christmas movie I watched-The best Christmas present…At the end, it turned out the best Christmas present was the person.Just you being there for that special someone is enough. Put your phone aside and give the person your full attention. Smile at them and make them believe they’re everything in your life.

6.Act of service.
Volunteer and do to them something you’ve never done to them before. Leave them wondering where that came from.

7.Happy times.
Compile an episode of the best moments of their time during the year and make them a short movie or a slideshow for example what Facebook does to it’s users.

8. Singing out loud.
This works out when you’re a terrible Singer. It will be so joyous seeing that effort. It will be funny but you shall have made their day. If you’re a pro,good for you. This is one of the perfect moments a loved one would like to experience.

9.A Box.
Everyone looks forward to boxing day after Christmas. Have something for them in the box like a book or a watch or even a fully grown Teddy bear. I look forward to this date and you should surely do.

10. Random customized cards or texts or phone calls.
Worth a try definitely. Thank me later.

Comment some of the gifts you’re planning to give this Christmas and remember there’s a Christmas gifts for active followers. Just like,comment and share if you find the posts interesting. Have a merry Christmas and a prosperous 2018.