Does porn up men’s game?

Internet influence is an act that both males and females undergoes through. A few weeks ago, a classmate of mine came to me asking why guys like watching porn. I didn’t think about it that much at that particular pointing in time until yesterday. I deeply thought about it and how it influences guys perception on females.
I took it upon myself to WhatsApp random guys contact in my contact list and you won’t believe this but it’s true, that most guys watch porn to up their sex game. For a long time I took this as a non issue in our society until last week, when I bumped into a porn clip from one of my classmate’s laptop.
I asked him out just to get his view on this.

You know what Collins, every guy atleast once must watch these clips to learn. It makes you better in bed. Imagine making your girl behave like the pornstar girl-all that moaning, screaming.

“Really? Has it affected how you perceive girls? “I asked.
“Well, I have to confess this, I don’t pretty much give women that much value, I believe in a one night stand thing. Get her super, watch a movie and have your ticket between her legs. And most of the time, all I see is that well rounded ass, and how am longing to grab it. I know it’s a bad thing, but really it’s also fun and entertaining. ” He elaborated.
Then I went to a few girls to get their opinions on this.
“It’s embarrassing really how guys view us in this modern era, we girls also want to be a part of society, we don’t dress as an invitation but to embrace our true identity. And shame on those guys who view us as sexual toys.” Grace, Bcom student.
“Do you girls also watch porn? ” I asked.

Out of curiosity, its a normal thing for every human, but just once or twice for girls unlike guys who get addicted to it.she replied.

“How does porn addiction from guys influence how they view you.. And first have you ever been a victim from them”

“Yes, I have been, I remember one day walking across school and this guy friend of mine slaps(spanks) me from behind. I felt helpless. I didn’t wanna react because of the embarrassment that would cause me and I have so many friends who feel uncomfortable on how guys perceive them. I think porn makes them demean women and the fact that addiction plays so much in their mind, most of time they lose focus of serious activities in their daily lives.”

It’s a proven fact that frequent Exposure to dirty clips ruins your mind on how you view people from the opposite sex. Most of the time sex will be the only thing running In your mind. Have witnessed this first hand, its a path you don’t want to tread on for the sake of yourself, our girls and our entire society. Internet indeed is a good thing, but let’s stop consuming its vices. Let’s make it a tool to develop ourselves for the best. It’s a hard thing to turn our back against, that’s why we are asking for help from our female colleagues, because together we can achieve equity.

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Today is a great day.

This is always how my typical morning start.I don’t care how the previous day was.Depending on what you’re going through,you just have to wake up,kneel down and say a short prayer to our father in heaven thanking him for his providence.

Hope this is not making you dizzy.I interact with a lot of friends .one moment they feel special and the other moment they feel like a piece of shit.At least you must have experienced this one way or another in your life. One thing that many people don’t get in life is that nature has a very funny way of getting things done.Take an instance of those you consider successful; what do you mirror of their campus or childhood life?They looked hopeless and trust me some of the people they grew up with never expected such a tremendous success from them.

Take a stock of your classmates back in class one. Try to trace how many are with you,better or worse than you and how many are dead.You’ll be surprised but that doesn’t mean you were better than them. What it means is that there were great plans ahead that you never saw by then. When you start to understand some of these simple things that keep happening in our lives,then you’ll have a clear understanding of the merits of waking up each morning.

Everyday is a great day for me.Right from my first beautiful good morning messages/texts to my parents and a few of my trusted friends to the last goodnight texts. I stopped having a role model because the last one I had never went as per my fancy. I call that my weakness because once I single you out as my role model,I run a background check on you and believe me some of the rumours I get leaves only one single man,Jesus Christ. He’s the kind of man I’m looking forward to,the kind of man I’ve always wanted to be and I’m still striving to be. Don’t just dismiss or underrate me because you never know just the way you were not certain of reading this post today.

Take each day easy. Be optimistic. Know your character. Don’t fool people with your reputation. And have cool friends that gives you a reason to live that extra day. It takes a huge amount of sacrife because there are those who wake up with only one mission;to lower your dignity.Be careful.Don’t give up and spend every moment fully. Tell that person that you love her and do that thing today.

Feels good watching the sunrise