I was raised up with a believe that man should always be tough. A man was not suppose to show any kind of weakness. A man was suppose to enjoy the pain. In my teenage years, the role shifted from my community to the media. The media taught me a lot of the expectation of both male and female more or less the same as those I learnt in my early childhood years. Am now 21 and I wonder what is wrong with this world.
I have friends who find it difficult to express their feelings to ladies. Out of the 10 girls I studied with in primary school only one have been able to trace and is in the same level of studies as I am though a year behind;all the rest are either pregnant or married. Is the fault theirs? No. It is their upbringing. They got raised up with a particular set of believes most of which you have to really work to overcome.
The facts still stand in campus. We have few ladies who prefer technical courses. Ladies are not willing to handle the technical stuff. Like in my faculty, most want to be anchors(Television presenters ). Even in our job market, from America the most powerful nation to Kenya,seldom will you find brave women to contest political offices. There are countable female directors in the whole world and less than 7 female presidents out of over 190 countries. We’ve never had a female president in our 7 key universities.
It’s not only girls but guys also have their own struggle. Did you know many guys die out of stress because they don’t have anyone to open upto. Unlike ladies who easily open up to one another, guys will rarely do that. Guys we raised up believing that they’re tough. It isn’t true. There is no weakness in being able to express yourself.
Ever asked yourself why the question of true love existence has been a question of contemplation for over a half a century now? Yes, simple. Because a lot of people are not able to face true love, it’s scary. It requires a massive amount of energy. That’s why people settle in arrangements and a lot of hit and run instances in campus. There’s a famous quote nowadays trending that “looking for a virgin in campus is like looking for a piece of needle in a hay sac” its not entirely possible but it requires the patience of an angel.
Is this something we can’t change? No. Both male and female have to get an understanding that we both have masculine and feminine energy within us. What does that mean? It means don’t be scared of what the other gender can do. If a male can be a president, then a female can equally be one. If a lady can own an iconic beauty parlor then a guy can as well own the same.
Achieving this is only possible if we men are taught to be emotional and empathetic. If we learn that not all the times we should control which will afford women an opportunity to try some of the things we do. Women won’t have to submit to us if we don’t have to control. Men will also be open to expressing themselves if women understand that it’s right for men to feel. I know it’s mandatory for women to submit in the bible. I surely am that God did not mean being a slave to satisfying male desires.
Are you willing to travel the road less travelled? Are you willing to move forward even if you feels alone?
As Emma Watson puts it,“There would have been no generation without men and women.” let’s work hand in hand toward empowering each other. Don’t wait for a union or an activist but take the lead among your family and friends.